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Saturday 29 September 2012

The Problem of Lagos State



By Richard Odilu

‘On the 17th of August 2008 … I just saw these armed forces, they started marking the houses in red paints, and I interrogated … They said they were told to mark it and everybody should vacate there’ the elderly man garbed in a brown traditional attire who had introduced himself as Evangelist Emiko Ayeni told the participants at the round table discussion on the topic: ‘Sustainability of Coastal Environments: The Uncertainties and Risks of Infrastructural Developments’

For close to four minutes he told the participants that included the Lagos State Commissioner for Waterfront Development and Infrastructure, Environmental Activists, Oceanographers, Observers, Bloggers, Journalists and International Bodies of how he had found himself as one of the inhabitants of the waterfront community in Victoria Island after his retirement, lived  and fished there for many years, and how the forceful eviction had seen them loose their tenancy, properties, including their cars that were set ablaze and even lives.

From where I sat at the venue, the conference hall of the Nigerian Institute for Oceanography and Marine Research, I could feel his pains as he remembered the past, the bitter memory of loosing all he had in the blink of an eye, and the homeless status that followed. When the moderator asked where they, the evicted inhabitants of the coastal communities lived at the moment, he replied that most of them lived under the umbrellas at the bar beach, while others roamed the streets.  

The Commissioner reacted saying that the man’s claim about being evicted with no prior notice wasn’t true, aside that part ownership of the said land belongs to the government,  that the occupants had been asked to vacate the place years before now, and that the government had seized the fire outbreak occurrence to evict them as the living condition there was deplorable which he connoted with the word ‘shanty’, also, that if  Evangelist Ayeni could produce any documentation of certificate of occupancy about their illegal eviction he will assure that they will be returned back to the land. This bring to fore the issue of relocation.

When you suddenly tell a man to vacate a place he has come to identify as his home overtime like the scenario above, without giving him an alternative accommodation, or that for his safety he had to vacate a residence to which his livelihood is tied to due to a man-made disaster, like the Kuramo Beach ocean surge last month, without finding a back-up for him, you end up creating a problem. You don’t solve a problem by creating a bigger one.

I don’t need to spell it out here the social problems that could stem from the destitute situation caused by these forceful evictions.

Well, forceful evictions are not new in Nigeria, the military era being the harbinger of such illegal and inhumane act with reference point to the Maroko eviction of 1990. We have witnessed several of such evictions in the post-military era, e.g. the Makoko eviction of August 03, 2012, and it is always the downtrodden and those at the lowest part of the social ladder that are always affected. The same people who had voted for a government they had hope will help make life easy and alleviate them of their problems now being made to believe that they are the problem that should be taken care of.

I understand that the Lagos State Government has plans to turn Lagos into a wonder city but it appears that poor people and those who live in poverty stricken areas will have to pay the ultimate price for that dream to come true.

Thursday 6 September 2012

Look at what we found: 'How A Married Man I Met On BBM Almost Killed Me With Sex and Drugged Drinks

NOTE: I came across this article on Facebook, found it interesting, and decided to post it here, unedited. Factual or fiction, I feel it has some lessons for people in this wicked world of ours. Please let me know your opinion in the comment box. 
The lessons learned from the mishap that happened to Cynthia Osokogu cannot be overemphasized, as many are now aware of the disadvantages of the social media especially in leading people to the hands of hoodlums. This is yet another story from a lady that simply wants us to learn. It is a near-death experience a young lady had with a man who was her BBM friend:
 "I am a girl who has fears, beliefs, reservations and just your regular typical Nigerian girl. This past few weeks has been one hell of a game for me. I have really been unsettled and I thought I share this story with you. "When Cynthia (the lady killed in the hotel room in Festac, Lagos) surfaced on the internet and various news media, I was scared and it brought back a whole lot of memories to me and also served as and eye opener. Many people castigated and criticised Cynthia (may her gentle soul rest in peace), but my point is, it could have been anybody, anybody at all.
"We have met people through various social media. Some have ended up well, some have not but with painful memories. To cut the long story short, let me kindly share with you my encounter with social media especially the very popular Blackberry Messenger (BBM).
"I am a graduate and currently serving in Kaduna. I could have runced it, but I needed somewhere to clear my head and forget about my ugly encounter. Here is my story.
"I happened to have a married man as a contact on my BBM. He had been asking me out for over six months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing with him when his wife was outside the country, and I went with him all night. We spent most of the night at Swe bar, Lagos.
"I also met his clique of friends, married as well with their various mistresses. We had ‘mad’ fun. After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a hotel somewhere in Obalende. I felt sort of safe with him. We did not have sex, but he made sweet love to me and touched me in places I had never ever imagined.
"He kissed me passionately but guess what? He did not have sex with me. We did all sorts but there was no penetration. So, to an extent, I trusted he was a good person to be around with. I did not know that it was all part of the plan.
"He gave me N10,000 and put me in a cab to go home the next morning. We kept talking and chatting and sending naked pictures to each other and he told me naughty things of how he wanted to whisper things in my ear, I blushed. We didn’t see for two weeks and that was because his wife just came back from Turkey.
"One faithful evening, he pinged me that he was organising a beach party/boat cruise and that he would love for me to be his date and that he wanted to open a BBM chat, as a medium for his friends and my friends to interact. I was excited about it, I just wanted to have fun. I was able to get five of my very hot friends.
"The BBM group opened and we got chatting. I also realise that majority of them were married and working in reputable firms. It was fun and we didn’t mind if they were married, we just wanted to have fun, as well as some other girls apart from my friends in the group.
"We chatted exclusively, sent pictures to the BBM group to introduce ourselves, and we had opened group conversations pending the beach party. And as excited as we were, we went shopping for nice sexy beach wears.
"The D-day finally came, we all assembled at the Lagos Island Boat Club. I was wowed because it was a high class party. We were cruising in a boat loaded with goodies drinks and hot babes, and as well ‘MARRIED MEN’. I did not care, I just said in my mind that I would not roll with married men anymore after this, that for now, all I wanted to do was to catch some fun. After all, I wasn’t paying bills.
"We got there, it was a private beach resort. Most of the beach facilities I got to see there were owned by multinational companies. We got out of the boat, and went to where we were partying. It was a duplex made with wood. It was a very nice setting.
"I felt comfortable because it even had a fence around it separating it from other beach houses around. So, there was privacy and of course bouncers (heavy looking guys) guarding the place. I said to myself, this must be heaven, I must be dreaming.
"Anyways, we felt free with each other because we had been chatting. It was 5:30pm and the party just started. We had drinks flowing from the private bar tender which happens to be owned by one of the men in the group. Reality struck when I realised that I was feeling dizzy and feeling really funny and light headed. Not only me, but other girls around me too noticed there was something strange about it.
"I was also feeling HORNY as hell! I had been drugged. They monitored us and when they knew the drug had really gone deep into our system, they moved us up into the main beach house. I could still see faces, but was too weak and horny to react.
"Mr B, the man who took me clubbing, carried me in his hands like a sacrifice and put me down on the floor just as other men also did with their girls. We were eight in numbers; 8 girls, 8 guys, and they all stripped us down and had sex with us.
"I enjoyed it a bit because I was horny. It was a mixed feeling because I cried, I moaned, but I did not know how many times he came into me. He had hard and rough sex with me. I was dizzy, but he grabbed me with force.All I could notice was the wedding ring on his finger. I thought of how wicked and miserable some married can be. How inhuman and heartless they could be.
"All of them took turns in switching partners and slept with all of us. I passed out. That was the last thing I could remember. I felt water poured on me. I noticed all the other girls around me too were half naked and some stark naked.
"We spent the night at the beach, but the men were no where to be found. I looked round me and all I could see was packs of used condoms. I ran to pick my cloths and possibly raise an alarm. I got dressed, found my phone with an envelope. It contained N16,000 and a note asking us to take N2000 each for transport. Tears of anger and rage filled my eyes and the girls around me as well.
"We were drugged and used like tissue paper. I grabbed my phone and noticed a ping came in. I checked my phone and I noticed the BBM group had been deleted, and a message via BBM from MR B came in. He threatened me that if I say a word to anyone, I would regret it.
"I told him he was a bastard, and he said try it. A picture came in, several pictures. In fact, they were pictures of us being naked on the floor. Pictures of the humiliating us but they blurred the faces of the men. In total, I got 20 pictures. I was not myself for a month.
"I went back to school, I had no one to talk to. The rest of the semester was hell for me. My CGPA dropped drastically. It was the worst out of the worst result I ever had.
"Till today, my friends and I have not discussed this with anyone, but all I could do when I heard of Cynthia’s story was to narrate my own ordeal anonymously and spread the news, the word, and pray they (ladies who do runs) see it and changed their ways.
"I am now born again. I have given my life to Christ. I fear men so much that I cannot even move close to them. I still have nightmares, but with time, God will strengthen me and I will move on. My advice to single ladies out there is, do not be desperate for fun. Pray to God to open your eyes of understanding, and pray hard. He who kneels before God will stand before kings and queens.
"To all married women, pray hard to God to intervene in your marriages and turn your husbands from bad habits and bad friends. As for me, I do not think I ever want to get married or date a man again. That chapter has been closed for good in my life.
"Please, do not ignore my mail. Please post it. There are a lot of things we ladies need to learn.Please post it on your blog and save a soul. It could be your friend, sister, cousin, neighbour.
"God bless you as you pass it on. To all readers, I do not care if you insult me or rain abuses at me. My job is to share this encounter with you and save you from any mishap. God bless you all. Amen